A wise way to deal with bullying - Parenting through communication
Hello everyone! Today, I'm going to talk about wise ways to deal with bullying, one of the common situations that children can experience. We must realize that bullying is a natural phenomenon that can happen to anyone.
1. Understanding and empathizing with bullying
Bullying is a natural part of a child's social development, and most children experience it. When a child is in this situation, parents must understand the child's emotions and guide them with calmness and empathy. In a recent episode of a TV show, I observed that when three children get together, one of them is always a little left out. This shows that bullying is not something that only happens to certain children, but that it can happen to anyone. Bullying can occur, especially during the early stages of community life, especially in kindergarten. At this time, it is important for parents to pay close attention and provide appropriate guidance while the child experiences socialization.
2. Empathize with emotions and respond calmly
Bullying can be one of the processes that helps a child's emotional acquisition and cognitive development. By experiencing bullying, your child can learn to understand their own feelings and respect the feelings of others. Parents have a role to play in supporting their child's emotional intelligence through these situations. When a child is bullied, we must remain calm and empathize with the child's feelings. When a child says, “Your friend doesn’t like me. He doesn’t play with me,” we should say, “I guess you feel bad because your friend doesn’t play with you.” However, if you overreact, your child may think it is a bigger problem. Next, you need to make sure that bullying is not an expression of rejection. Preschoolers may limit the number of playmates they have because they do not handle multiple relationships well. At this point, it's a good idea to say, "I guess you don't want to hang out with me right now. Then, let's hang out again later."
3. Positive guidance without criticism
Helping your child find positive solutions to conflict situations with friends can help improve cognitive development and emotional regulation skills. Parents' positive and guiding role helps children cope with social challenges. Additionally, as a solution to bullying, it is important not to judge the child negatively by saying, “You did something wrong, so your friend hates you.” Negative evaluations of the child's behavior in rejecting a friend may prejudice the child toward the rejected friend and may prevent the child from forming healthy peer relationships. Avoid the pressure to “always get along with your friends” and tell your child that it’s okay to not get along with all of his or her friends.
4. Opportunity to teach respect and consideration
Teaching young children to respect and understand the feelings of others is an important part of building their social foundation. Parents can help their children learn the values of respect and consideration while expressing and understanding their emotions. That is why children who have been bullied must be taught how to respect and be considerate of others. Children may not be able to consider how their words and actions may affect others. However, you need to be careful about freely expressing your feelings of dislike for others. Avoid leading bullying or doing other hurtful things in public by saying, "You can hate someone, but I don't like you. Let's not play with him." A child's play When choosing her friends, respect her right to self-determination, but beware of rude behavior. “I don’t want to play with you” can make her feel rejected, so teach her to say no kindly, “I can’t play with you right now. We’ll play later.”
5. The role of parents in forming children’s lifelong social skills
Infancy is a period when human social and emotional development occurs significantly, and through parental guidance and proper example, children can build a healthy social foundation. Your child's emotional intelligence and social skills will influence his or her ability to form positive interpersonal relationships throughout his or her life. It is said that a child's lifelong social skills are determined by the first five years of her life. Therefore, in kindergarten, children gain their first major social experiences. However, a child who is poor at expressing and communicating her emotions may have difficulty forming relationships with her peers. Therefore, parents must constantly communicate with their children and provide appropriate advice and help to build healthy friendships.
Let’s develop healthy social skills together through communication with your child! We look forward to becoming a beautiful family growing together.
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